Female nudity has captivated artists of every age. From the sacred and religious to the libertine of the 18th century, the female body has inspired painters’ imaginations in thousands of different ways.
Instead of wasting your life looking at girls’ nudes, focus on genuinely building up your relationship with her. Then, when the time is right, ask her for pics!
1. Compliment her a lot
Girls love being complimented on their looks. It’s a huge confidence booster and shows that you’re paying attention to her.
Try to compliment her on things that are unique to her. For example, if she has posted a pic where she’s doing something creative like abstract art or yoga or if she’s playing a video game that is really intense, then say how much you admire her creativity.
If she feels good about herself and knows you think she’s hot, then she’ll be more likely to send a nude picture. It’s nerve-wracking for a girl to ask you for naked pics and she needs to know that you find her sexy to feel comfortable doing it. Be careful not to put too much pressure on her though – don’t be creepy about it.
2. Get her in the mood
Nudes are personal, and girls don’t just send them out to anyone. They’re sent to people they trust and are often only shared with the guy they’re in a serious relationship with. So if you ask for nudes right away, alarm bells are going to start ringing in her head and she’ll probably think you’re creepy. Instead, build up her confidence in you and make her feel like she’s wanted – this will get you far better results than asking for them straight off.
To do this, compliment her a lot and let her know she’s sexy. You can even give her a back massage or put on some slow jams to help her relax and wind down, says licensed marriage and sex therapist Kat Van Kirk.
Then, if she’s relaxed, you can slowly move the conversation towards sex. “You can try things like talking about your favourite fantasies and describing sexy places you’ve been,” she adds. “Speak in a sensual voice and make eye contact to heighten the mood.”
Finally, you can start to sext her and give her little hints that she’s horny. But make sure you’re using the right emojis. A dick emoji isn’t going to work and will actually just make her cringe. Try a more sexy emoji instead such as a peach or water drop.
Lastly, don’t nag or beg for nudes because this will only stress her out and turn her off. It’s important that she feels comfortable sharing them and that takes time – no one wants to be pressured into doing something so intimate. If you’re begging, pushing, persuading or demanding her to do it, she’ll just stop sending them altogether and will probably block you. So be patient and wait for her to show her interest in you. Then, if you’re both up for it, she might just surprise you with a few nudes.
3. Say you’re at the shops
Nudes are a pretty normal part of the sexting landscape. Almost everyone has sent one at some point. But even though they are very common, it’s still important to be cautious when pressing send. Nudes can give away a lot of information about a person. They can reveal if someone is trustworthy or not. They can also reveal things like the type of music someone listens to, which can be a clue that they’re not interested in dating you.
So if you want to avoid revealing too much, try to get the pic in a nondescript setting. This will make it harder for people to identify you. It will also help if you don’t have anything in the frame that gives away your location, such as photos or sticky notes.
Another reason to be careful is because other girls may have already sent this guy nudes. This can lead him to believe that other girls will ask him for nudes as well, and he’ll be more likely to ask you for one too.
Finally, remember that it’s never okay to pressure someone into sending nudes. This isn’t healthy for either of you, and it can actually be illegal. If you’re feeling pressured to send a nude photo, take a step back and reconsider your relationship. It’s probably not the right fit for you anyway. Carolyn Twersky is an associate editor for Seventeen covering celebrities, entertainment, politics, trends and health. When she’s not writing, you can find her watching Ru Paul’s Drag Race or traversing NYC in search of the best donuts.
4. Ask her for pics
Some girls might not want to send nudes, so be respectful of her feelings. Never demand them and don’t tell her how hot another girl’s nudes are. This will make her feel like she’s not enough for you and is competing with other women.
You can ask for pics in a casual way. For example, you could say “I’m curious to see what your face looks like naked”. It’s a casual and respectful request that still leaves it up to her. You can also ask for a specific type of pic, such as a topless photo or one showing off her tits.
The key to successfully asking for nudes is to build her confidence. She needs to know that she’s oozing in sex appeal and that she’s wanted by you. This is why complimenting her a lot and getting her in the mood are so important. Once she’s turned on and confident in her sex appeal, she’ll be more likely to share her nude photos.
It’s important to remember that if she does give you a nude picture, it’s up to you to manage the risk. You can’t guarantee that the photo won’t end up on the internet or that other people will be able to view it. It’s best to only send a naked photo to someone that you trust, or at least someone that you don’t mind if their friends or family view it.
Ultimately, it’s up to her to decide whether or not she wants to share a nude picture with you. If she does, it’s a good indication that she is interested in you and wants to turn you on. However, if she’s only offering to share nudes with you out of a sense of obligation or to please you, then politely decline her offer.
Lastly, be sure to choose the right time to ask for pictures. Don’t ask her for a nude pic during a serious conversation or when she’s obviously tired or stressed. Instead, ask for a pic during a playful, flirty text. This will set the tone and increase the chances of her agreeing to your request. You can even try using apps that allow you to share revealing pictures that disappear after a certain amount of time, such as Snapchat or Instagram DMs.